Break From Routine!

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Managing your relationship with your Ausome child can be challenging. It can be an additional struggle to maintain your own mental well-being and happiness. Autistic children benefit from routine, and disrupting that routine can negatively impact their mental health.

During a recent 4-day trip to Las Vegas with my family, I felt quite anxious about returning home. I couldn't pinpoint the reason for my anxiety until I realized that I was uncertain about who I was returning home to.

Would I be welcomed by a joyful toddler who missed me, or would I be met with tears and a tantrum? As it turned out, neither was the case. Instead, I was met by an expressionless child who did not even acknowledge my presence, refusing to make eye contact.

Even though I understood, I was deeply saddened by the fact that my usually affectionate and joyful child was ignoring me. I held back tears, telling myself not to take it personally and to give her some room to adjust.

Nevertheless, it's a personal matter. It's not that she was mad at me, but rather that my child was experiencing a range of emotions. She can't express that she missed me, yet she was upset that I was absent. She can't communicate that the disruption in routine made her anxious and upset about my absence. She can't articulate that she's glad to see me, but also fearful that I might leave again.

My sadness doesn't stem from selfishness, but from not wanting my child to feel devastated whenever I plan a vacation. Fortunately, everything turned out fine in the end. She has now returned to her usual self, laughing and playing with me once more.

Dear Ausome Parents, it is completely normal to experience a range of emotions when leaving your amazing children. Remember, it is important for everyone to take a break, including you. While your children may benefit from a routine, they will adjust in due time.

Consider planning a yearly vacation for the same period annually. Note it on the calendar and remind your child by crossing off the days until the trip. Ensure it suits both you and your children. Avoid accumulating frustration from never taking a break. Remember, it's essential to have time away from your children, whether they are neurotypical or neurodivergent.

-Signed an Ausome Mom